My husband, 76, was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s about 3-4 years ago. He is a retired professor and continues to think he’s just fine. He debates with his neurologist about his condition, won’t accept the diagnosis, and I am starting to worry that sooner or later his safety will be an issue.
He thinks he can still drive. His neurologist forbids it but my husband says that his doctor doesn’t know anything. I have to hide the car keys and beat him to the driver’s seat as if we were playing Musical Chairs. My daughter installed a stopper to prevent him from driving but it broke. I had to pay for a tow and had to rent another car. I have no family nearby.
He repeats himself constantly but, of course, to him each time is the first time. As a retired accounting prof, he has become obsessed with our bank accounts and bills. His mistakes are constant so I have to undo his errors and then correct our financial records. He refuses to give up being the head of finance in the family.
I am at my wits’ end. My 97 year old mother is fading. She lives far away and refuses to move up here. I have good facilities for seniors in our town but my husband refuses to utilize any of them. He shows no recognition that his condition is deteriorating. It’s not really denial, but more obliviousness to what is happening. I am afraid to leave him alone.