I am caring for my 77 year old mother and 83 year old dad. We also have a 12 old son with a physical disability who uses a wheelchair. My dad has severe arthritis and multiple injuries from his younger years and uses a power chair. Also early stage Dementia. My mother has COPD and is constantly going to the ER, once every 2 weeks...or this week, 2 days in a row. We have been to gambit of doctors and nothing! I’m not even sure the COPD is real based on her O2 blood gases and numbers. My dad refuses to take a bath...because he’s afraid of falling. Their house is not accessible at all and my mom is a pack rat. She doesn’t clean and it’s so bad. Like I don’t want to touch anything when we go there bad. My hubs and I have begged them to move in with us. They (mainly my mom) refuses. Dad really can’t/shouldn’t stay alone but when she gets admitted to the hospital, I can’t always go get him. My hubs took dad to the Dr not long ago and convinced them to get home health to come out. We were told that would get eyes on the situation....but nada. If I reach out to the RN, would that help?
Also, mom only drives locally and can’t get dad in and out of car, so they expect me or my hubs to take them back and forth to appointments. We made them use transport but now they are refusing to do that. What do we do with that???
Any help, insight or wine greatly appreciated!