This forum is a Godsend. It is so refreshing to see that I am not alone in my feelings of guilt, resentment, etc.
My 85 year old, legally blind, early dementia, NARCISSISTIC dad just doesn't get it sometimes, and I'm afraid he's REALLY going to hurt himself.
Let me preface this by saying, I'm not the warmest and fuzziest person in the world. I'd rather not FAKE something to make someone feel better which is why I struggle with Daddy.
He FINALLY got the clue that he couldn't do yardwork anymore. He's still hell bent on fishing (I detest the sport, so I won't take him), but he can't see to bait hooks or has the motor skills to even operate a reel anymore.
He still INSISTS on trying to do things himself such as take out the trash (he gets insanely winded and must stop every few minutes). Just a few minutes ago, he burned his hand on his industrial iron. He DEMANDS to still press all of his clothing on this ancient, cleaner-style pressing machine. I have always HATED that he still does this. True to form, he FORGOT to move his hand as he clamped the top of the iron down. Thankfully, I was able to unplug the silly thing and move his hand before it got too bad.
I'm sure its hard to admit that there are things that he can't do anymore, but he won't listen!!! I have tried to let him attempt to do things on his own (that I know he can't do), but it's becoming a safety thing now.
How can I encourage him to stop the dangerous stuff without emasculating him (BTW... he put two ENTIRE bags of Tide pods in the laundry this morning). FRUSTRATING!!!