My Dad is 90. He is capable of doing many things (like buttoning his shirt) but he wants me to do everything for him. What should I do? If I tell him to do it himself, then I feel like I'm being "mean". I'm beginning to feel that he's just being lazy and likes me catering to him. If he needs help I certainly want to give it to him but I'm not sure doing things for him that he can do himself is good. How can I, nicely, get him to do what he is capable of doing? He and I live together and have a good relationship and I don't want to damage that. Generally he is very easy to get along with and happy.