Any suggestions on my mother's friend who tells her not to trust family?

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Hi, I have no idea where to turn with this problem. My Mother has mental issues, but she has a friend who tells her not to trust family. My Mother has known this woman for many years but they weren't close until the last year or so. She has taken my mother to the bank and had her sign papers there and refused to tell anyone what she did. She's taken her other places and been involved with her signing things and encourages her to think she can't trust anyone else but her. This is turning my mother's attitude very hateful toward the family members who take care of her everyday. I'm ready to take some sort of legal action but don't know what I can do. About at the end of my rope with this issue. Please help, any suggestions are welcome.



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She doesn't really say what she thinks I've done, but she makes comments like my mother told them that she can't trust anyone at home. I don't know if any of you has much experience with things like this. I have noticed that my mom locks her bedroom door all the time now, she won't allow anyone to move things because she's sure its her things being moved or possibly taken. Locking the door really worries me only because my mother can't hear anymore. If the smoke detectors should go off she won't hear them. With the door locked no one can get in the room to help her get out. I honestly believe that she's being told not to trust us by this friend of hers and her family. My mother has a large amount of money that she receives, I believe this woman wants her to change her beneficiary and she's doing that by convincing her that everyone else is against her. I've cared for my mother for over twenty years and I know that some paranoia is normal in cases like hers but she was always happy and our family was fine until she reunited with this friend. From that time on things have just gone downhill. I'm about at the end of my rope here, really trying hard to do the right thing but not sure what that is anymore. She's convinced my mom that she should go with her to get power of attorney. She wants to "help" her fill out the paperwork and make sure to take her to get it signed. All my mother sees is that she has this one good 'friend". I'm really worried about what might happen after the papers are signed. I had a long talk with her and she says she never told anyone she couldn't trust us. She doesn't know why her friend would say that. Because its all secretive I'm left not really knowing what was said, but because of how and when things changed I really do believe it has more to do with her friend than anything my mom feels.
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Might I ask what the daughter is threatening you with? I'd get the lawyer to write a cease and desist letter to that person.
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Hi, thank you all for answering. We're working on getting a lawyer right now. My mom has become so hateful to all of us. We thought at first it was just a symptom of her mental state but now I'm fairly sure its because of things this woman and her family have said to her. Now her daughter is calling me and threatening me. I'm trying to get guardianship for my mom but I'm told she has to approve that. The way things are right now, even after having been there for my mom and taking care of her for the past twenty-something years she won't agree to that. She's so brainwashed by this friend of hers that everyone here is out to get her. It's just a very frustrating situation.
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Do you have a family attorney that you or your mother have a relationship with? If she took your mother to the bank to sign secret papers, you need legal help right away. You may need to ask if you need a guardianship to undo whatever the "friend" did.

Locally, there was a nice little old "tax lady" who did people's taxes and got financial POA or guardianship over her "clients". Inherited a pile of property. Please take and action and do not ignore. Like Rocknrobins says...you can do this.
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Yes, lawyer for sure. But I'd also call Adult Protective Services in your area and report your suspicions to them. This woman may have more than one victim, and they may know her.
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It sounds like your mother is at risk for financial abuse. You need to speak to an attorney who specializes in elderly law and do it yesterday. He or she will give you your options and tell you what you need to do to protect her. Get going. You can do this.
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