I don't yell or call names, I just become frustrated, and impatient at times. When my parent plays with the computer wires or repeats the same story. The guilt overwhelms me.

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Operator, I completely understand. I can't add more than has already been said to you. But, I will tell you, I have seen the Lord growing my patience.
I too have days when I am weaker in the patience department and I have so much difficulty that day. I go off and cry, it seems to be the way I deal with it, without being hurtful to anyone.
We are only human, only Jesus was able to live this life to perfection.
We try our very best to do good, and pray a lot, and immerse ourselves in the word of God, and then we grow in patience and strength. Hang in there. May God bless.
1 John 3:22 - "And whatsoever we ask, we receive of him, because we keep his commandments, and do those things that are pleasing in his sight."
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Caregiving or simply interacting with an elderly parent is probably one of the hardest tests for our patience.
Personally, most of the time I choose to just stay quiet.. but I don’t always succeed.
The only practical advice that I believe I could give you is, first, make a conscious effort to remind yourself when getting frustrated that your parent is by no means trying to annoy you, rather, think that his/her weakness is a call for help and love.
Second, count to ten. An old trick but it works!... third, avoid having contact with your parent on days when you know your patience is running low.
And fourth, keep in mind that the mere fact that you’re with your parent, trying to make his/her life a little easier is a LOT. Caregiving is an immense commitment that comes from love, and even when not all our actions and thoughts speak of love, they do come from it. Therefore our flaws and shortcomings aren’t to be judged too harshly...I’m sure God doesn’t, so why should we?
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I think almost all of us have been there. Forgive yourself, find new coping mechanisms and move on. I know it's not easy, but maybe just walk away for a few minutes. Bless wishes.
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