My MIL is only in her 60s- she's relatively young. But she has been showing a rapid degradation in her short and long term memory. Sometimes she remembers me, but other times she refers to me as "that strange woman" (I've been married to her son for over 10 years, and she never used to refer to me as that when her mind was clear). The last time my husband and I insisted on going with her to the doctor to help get her memory issues looked at/ diagnosed (she has type 2 diabetes and thyroid problems, so we tried to say that maybe it was those things, but she kept forgetting and then got suspicious and then accused us of trying to commit her and steal her stuff). Then she moved a state away (with the help of friends) and refused to speak to us. Finally, she just moved back and she's living in an Extended Stay hotel, but when my husband went to help her move back, it's obvious that her memory has degraded even more. She seems to think that her father only recently died (he died when my husband was 3), and she gets confused a lot.
Recently she called my husband upset and telling him that her doctor recommended that she "go into a home." I'm not sure what the doctor actually said since we were not there, but now she's trying to switch doctors.
I'm not sure what the legalities are, but if a doctor evaluates her and thinks she needs to be in assisted living, is there any way for us to push the issue and have her more fully evaluated so we can get her the assistance she needs to be safe?
We are at our wits end because we are young (20's) and don't own our own home and are raising our two young children and work full time to make ends meet. We would not be able to do any caregiving ourselves, and I am afraid what the memory loss will do to her personality.
My husband is an only child and my MIL is divorced, so she doesn't have a lot of other family who could help us either.
Does anyone have any suggestions to help us with our predicament?