My brother and I are at wits end. Mom had 2 strokes after Dad died (13 yrs ago). She shows signs of dementia with **severe** delusions, but whatever non-sophisticated test her doc uses is not showing any problems.
I don't want to take her car away because she lives in a small community where she goes to the grocery store, doc, and hairdresser--and is self-sufficient. Recently, she followed me on a 2.5 hr drive (which took 4.5 hrs because she drives so slowly) and I witnessed how terrible her night vision is because she missed a turn THREE times even tho she could see my tail lights where she needed to turn. Two days later, she drove home by herself, making a 3-hr drive into (6) SIX HOURS!
Now she thinks she's ok to drive to a neighboring state (6-hr drive for normal folks) for Thanksgiving, which I'm afraid will mean 12 hrs for her. She's convinced since she drove 6 hrs that she can make the 6-hr drive to see her SIL. We cannot make her see that she's not thinking this through rationally. We're afraid that she will have to drive in the dark during some of that travel....and that's not acceptable for us.
She wants me to go with her, but that's HER dream....not mine. Oh--did I mention she's also narcissistic? I've had it with her trying to control me and destroy my holiday time with my own family. I am NOT going with her. My brother thinks he can talk her out of it, but if she doesn't have proper reasoning skills, how do you think he will do???
I've seen some really good advice on here and hope you can help me. Thanks.