I have posted about my large dysfuntional family. I have 8 siblings, 3 help a bit but my mother’s care has been mine and my husband’s since she moved in over 2 years ago. The drama has hit an epic level with excuses that some won’t visit or even take her out because they aren’t comfortable coming to our house.
She talks to all about it differently and excuses the ones that don’t come... I am exhausted and hurt that so much is expected of me and mom is fine with that. She is appreciative of what we have done for her but on the other hand agrees with the ones that are “uncomfortable”... never stops talking about the drama between us after I have asked her to please stop... she is more sympathetic towards some of the ones that don’t come! I have 5 grown children and I am at one of the lowest points I have ever been... when mom came here she asked me to promise not to kick her out, I did.
I can't live like this anymore and told her if some of her children won’t come here because of me that maybe its not the best place for her... she called my brother and asked if she could stay with him for a while... he is in a panic.
I feel badly for going back on my word, but I’m broken and don’t feel I should have the entire burden of caring for mom. My life is not mine it is all her and I hate being in or coming home to my own house.