I don’t want to have anything to do with her. We try to do the right thing and care for her. She’s been in my life for 42 years and I’ve seen her in action (throwing food, slamming doors, hanging up) but have always forgiven her for her beastly behavior.......but the last straw was when we tried to take her out for her 92nd birthday and she was out of her mind on drugs. We drove 30 minutes to the restaurant and realized how high she was and turned around and took her home. Of course, she went ballistic and has turned this around and we are made out to be the villains. The thought of her being with us on Christmas fills me with anxiety. She is really going to go ballistic when she finds out she’s not included in our plans. Any ideas? It does hurt me that we have been so kind to her and have helped her with any request and she just throws us under the bus. My husband put her Christmas tree up, outside lights and a beautiful wreath on the door and not once did he hear a thank you.......such a toxic woman. She does not have Alzheimer’s. She is very sharp remembering prescription orders, Dr. appts, and whatever she wants to remember, but acts so stupid when she is trying to manipulate us to do her bidding. At her last hair appointment, the stylist cut her hair a little shorter than usual. She called me at home later that evening and also called my husband at work that night because she was “scared” because her hair was so short. Unbelievable!!