My father is aggressively controlling access to my stepmother. She is in dementia decline. He is very anxious about her safety and blocks access to her by friends and family. Ironically he also will not entertain any changes to her care, even if they are to improve her safety. It’s clear that it’s a combination of
- his panicking at her decline;
- his lifelong inflexibility becoming even more rigid with asvanced age; and
- his anxiety about incorporating any further changes into his/their life
We step siblings need advice on how to intervene.