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If you don't have an appropriate transfer bench, method of keeping the person warm ALL the time before, during and after the shower, try something less traumatic. Use no rinse soaps and shampoos. Complete disrobing isn't necessary; the person can be washed up while sitting in a chair, comfortable and warm, and revealing only a limited portion of skin at a time.
Hospitals and care facilities have addressed these issues for year.
And make it a pleasant event with music, perhaps a treat afterwards...something to look forward to and remember instead of something traumatic to be dreaded and resisted.
There have been a lot of questions on this subject. Some of the posts from these searches might be of help:
https://www.agingcare.com/search.aspx?searchterm=alternatives+to+showers
https://www.agingcare.com/search.aspx?searchterm=no+shower+alternatives
Whatever the reason for the refusal, you can't change that; you can only change the circumstances of keeping clean, while respecting this person's feelings, comfort and privacy.
I am sure he didn't believe he smelled bad (sense of smell was gone for the last years of his life), but he really wanted to go out to Walmart...so he had no choice.
Interesting study was done about 10 years ago. They found that the loss of the sense of smell is nearly a 100% predictor of death within 5 years. Regardless of age, medical condition, ethnicity. That study was being expanded to include larger population groups and long terms. The original study was a random selection of 100 people ... when they went to do the follow up 5 years later...they found all of their study group had passed away.