My husband has a brother and sister who refuse to lift a finger to help or educate themselves about the disease. We have had him 24/7 for over a year and his son has not called one time to talk. The sister is much younger than the brothers and is clueless as to what his disease entails. She calls her dad but she has a fit when she doesn’t get a call back. She only cares about herself and when I told her that we have been dealing with a heart and cancer scare with me she didn’t even ask about it nor did she want to know how her dad was - she just wanted to tell her dad about her problems hoping he would send her money (which I asked her to tell me if there is anything we can do to help but I don’t even know what is wrong with her (or frankly that she is even sick) - she expects that she tells her dad and then he tells us and feels like we should call her and see if she needs something. She doesn’t get that the second they get off the phone he doesn’t remember who he was talking to! The siblings live about 4 hours away but they refuse to visit or assist in his care at all. We even bought her brand new tires as she said her tires would never make it here but she has yet to show up and that was last Thanksgiving!
It really makes me feel angry that I am stuck in my house 24/7 since I work from home and deal with the cooking, cleaning, and laundry while my husband handles all the rest and he is about ready to drop dead of a heart attack any day! All the siblings want is the money at the end - it must be nice to do nothing but the same amount as the one who takes care of all of it!