My parents are caring for my father's 70 year old sister. She has osteoporosis and has broken bones 3 times in the last 2 years. Plus she's had surgeries on a knee and foot. She's in rehab for the 3rd time. She will not listen to doctor's orders on what she should not do and takes her meds as she chooses, throwing away what she doesn't want and doubling or tripling others. We think she's having memory issues. She gives money and personal info over the phone to strangers. She's very demanding. Her doctor won't recommend an evaluation for her memory. He's no help on any of it.
My father has a seizure disorder that impares his thinking, and he has pain and a limp from an accident. My mother has a list of health issues and was recently diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer's. Neither of them can drive. I have to help them monthly to handle their finances and go to all of their appointments with them now. My mothers doctor said she is in no condition to take care of someone else.
My aunt refuses to go into nursing home. She wants my parents to care for her. She's in rehab now, and we can't make her understand that they can't do it anymore. She won't listen.
All three of them are falling on me in someway or another, since none can drive. I have a family of my own with a child with epilepsy. I've moved so we have room for my parents when they need full time care. I don't think I can take all of them, and my parents are wearing out.
Please tell me what I can do.