Feedback needed. So there is a 27 year age difference between myself and my hubby. Him being the 'senior' in the relationship. He's in his early 60s.
Anyway. We both have mental health issues. Depression being one of them. He's an active alcoholic. He has stated to me before he has no intention of stopping his drinking. He has admitted he drinks to self medicate. He is taking medication for the mental health disorders. He sees a therapist.
About two years ago he was drinking so much that he was unable to walk without a walker or a wheel chair. He'd urinate and defecate on himself because he couldn't make it to the bathroom. Was a fall risk, had fallen many times, knocking himself out.
We took him to the ER, had him see a neurologist, had him see his GP, etc. Neuro exams found nothing. It was concluded it was a combination of alcohol and medication (Lithium). A combination of Lithium and Alcohol Toxicity.
Flash forward to now, He's since been off of Lithium. But the drinking has increased to the point that he's again not able to walk. Not able to make it to the bathroom. He wounded his arm somehow. It's the alcohol. I've known it from the beginning. I try to tell him and he brushes it off.
He's since canceled every appointment he's had this month. He sits and drinks. He has interment pain in his groin that cause him the scream in pain. He *refuses* to go to the doctor. I bring it up and he just gets mad.
So anytime he screams I look at him. Let him know I hear him and go back to what I am doing. He will not go whatsoever. I can't force him. In the past I've tried to call 911 and while they come to talk to us unless he's a danger to himself or another they legally can't take him.
I'm at a loss. I told him that right now I am waiting till he falls and can't get up just so I can call 911 to have him taken away.
What I want to know is can I be legally held responsible if something happens and because I knows he's been drinking, or that he's in pain, and haven't done anything to help him?
I've offered to take him at the drop of a hat. I'd take him if I was mid-pee and finish going at the ER if he wanted to go.
He just won't do it.
I highly doubt he'd be declared mentally incompetent. He knows what he's doing. He just refuses to get help.
*sigh* I knew I'd have to take care of him at some point in life. I didn't figure at 34.