Mom has been through a lot this year. Her husband my step dad of 35 years diesd in January. She and he were in and out of the hospital so much before that that it seemed moving them into an assisted living place was a good idea. My step dad died shortly thereafter and mom got very sick. But, low and behold she recovered and is doing very well. They take great care of her at the assisted living place. I bet you can guess what I'm going to say next. Yes, she is running out of money and the assisted living place does not accept medicaid. Even if they lower her rent she still has all the other fees. So my husband and I are thinking seriously about taking some of the money that she has left and building an inlaw suite so we can take care of her as she continues to live well. I would much rather her stay where she is doing so well but she will run out of money in about a year and then she will have to move into our house anyway. If that happens it will be much more difficult than if she had her own unit attached. We all need some space and privacy. There are so many "what ifs" that I can't seem to make any decisions. What if it all costs way too much and then by the time she moves in there is no money left for care or anything else? Then we start spending our own money which we would like to avoid. What if she gets sick in the midst of moving her in? All that stuff makes me so anxious. What if I can't care for her very well? Med management, wound care, sundowners....Anyway, your thoughts?