My Mom, 79, suffered a series of maladies ending with her being housebound. 2.5 years ago I discussed coming to stay here at her house part time to assist her in managing her increasing needs.
1.5 years ago I came and set up a room in her big house. Last April, I left after having a particularly big blowout argument over whether I might use more than the 1 room I set up for myself (covid stress etc) I bought a nice RV and set it up on her large previously purpose built pad. I've been back in town since July.
Literally have done every thing she asks (it's the least I can do), and she doesn't ask much.
Additionally, once in a while, ALWAYS on a day I have taken off from work (btw I work sometimes 25 days at a stretch, very accommodating workshifts etc, independent contractor) she will manufacture some crisis or crises and eventually we will be at odds. From nowhere it'll be finances, or politics, or her other children, or my dead Father (2 husbands ago) or maybe that she just desperately wants to be right about something.
Here's the kicker,
now every single time there is even one bit of resistance from me toward whichever nonsense I'm supposed to be terrified of along with her, she says:
"If you act like this, you're gone"
"you've always disappointed me"
"what have you ever done for me?"
always with the deepest of sincerity and
1 day later she will have acted as though none of it happened.
How would any of you approach this?