So, I brought mom home for the weekend... and I think I will leave things as they are. Her in the NH, and me traveling to and fro to visit. I thought for sure I wanted her home until her dying day... and I'm feeling rather selfish right now. Her only problem? She can't sleep through the night without soiling her bed... she will strip off her "depends" in her sleep, especially if it's already full of pee, and she will remove the wet protective pad and take off her gown.... and lay back down with nothing on but a blanket.
This is how it is every night... or close to every night... and there's no home health available in our little neck of the woods for overnight - unless it's private pay.
I read many posts here about caregivers who have their parent home and are doing care even through the night... is that what I should do? I can't imagine waking up in the middle of the night just to change her bed/clothes/depends/ and then go back to sleep. I suppose I can always go back to sleep when she takes naps which is often, but is that a healthy thing for me?
Am I being selfish? She really is easy in every other area - outside of the facet that she's down to NO interests whatsoever except for sleeping. I don't think I can also sit with her all day just to entertain her... she won't watch TV. She won't read. She won't do puzzles... maybe it's that Cymbalta that's keeping her half-dead...
So I'm leaving her in the NH until I find another solution... Question? Am I being selfish?