We moved my elderly parent in with us after relocating to a new state, thinking this was an ideal plan. It meant my parent wouldn’t have to be alone, and we could help out. Fast forward several months, and we are to the point that we want to help my parent find a new place. This parent refuses to do anything to help out unless specifically asked, and when confronted about the issues, excuses are made. I feel like I’m running an assisted living facility. We have 3 kids to take care of and their grandparent refuses to lift a finger. We provide all groceries and everything else, including driving to appointments. My elderly parent is afraid to drive despite never having an accident.