My parents want to leave me 100% of the inheritance but only if my brother is Trustee of the living will. My brother is a cognitive (very accomplished, no obvious grandiose ego but very entitled), covert (no outright belittling or raging around others), and altruistic narcissist (helped and some others a few times financially but used this giving as license to demean and talk badly about the others, and as a weapon to torment me using finances - which seem to be his only currency). He would be getting my parents' house but has "generously" offered to allow me to inherit any money that is left upon their death, as long as he is trustee.
My parents think he is the greatest and say he should be trustee because he's financially responsible (I am not irresponsible, I have a lot of student loan debt but no credit card debt), because anyone else would charge me (bro says he will do it all for free) and because they also think anyone else would cheat me (even banks because they are not family). I do not want my brother as trustee and have a long history of emails demonstrating his hostility toward me. If I do not "submit" (my dad's words) I would not get anything, though, so I need some advice on how to not get disinherited or be under my brother's thumb after my parents' passing.
What should I do besides just turning it all down? I am advocating for the trust to at least include "shall’s” instead of “may's” as much as possible so little to nothing is actually at my brother's discretion. What are some examples, if any, of discretion my brother may have that are not "in the fine print" or I may not be informed of? Is there any evidence of hostility toward me before/after he becomes trustee that can be used to change trustees if this hostility isn't directly related to how he manages the trust? Any other recommendations? I am going to take a copy of the Trust to a lawyer that my family isn't working with or know about to review before it is signed, but I would appreciate any other tips or heads up.