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I have posted about my mother who doesnt care about anyones feelings but her own...she manipulated me in being here by playing weak and frail only to be totally fine now that im here...unless she wants to manipulate me into doing something. 3 tuners on dish which means you can tape 3 things at once...and when 3 things are taping you cant watch live tv. in the 2 months ive been here i havent been able to finish one tv show. she tapes 24/7...every news show...golf! because she just wants to sit and watch tv all day and do nothing! ive confronted her with this and she says "well its my dish" lol. .i buy all the groceries, i wonder how she would like it if i told her all she was eating was bread and water cause i buy all her food. just needed to vent. loosing my mind!

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NewUser32 - If you just want to vent, that's fine. I'm sure you can find lots of people who can relate to that. I moved out of my mother's house over 3 years ago and I still vent about it. And commiserate with other folks who are still in that situation.

Regarding the TV remote, I had that battle too. In my mother's community there are several choices of provider and I actually had a different company come in and set up a connection just for my room. So we both watched our own shows and paid our own bills. The helper who is now living in my old room at my mother's house uses the same provider as my mother but got a separate cable box for her bedroom. I believe she covers the difference in the monthly cable bill but I could be wrong. They worked that at between themselves.

If you're not in a position to move right away, then try to take whatever steps you can to make the living situation bearable for yourself for as long as it lasts. Any way you can reduce your stress and aggravation will be a plus until you get the resources together to move out. Good luck!!
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Gershun said it! I posted an answer yesterday about hospice and guilt and now reading it I sounded a little strange. Can't delete it either Lol ! Hang in there sugar ! Vent away !
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NewUser no one on here is trying to scare you away or make you feel unwelcome. The first couple of times I posted on here someone gave me hell for something. I don't even remember what it was now. But honestly, everyone has their bad days and they vent. This is a site full of people who have had a long, grueling time of it with caregiving and beyond and also people who are just starting their caregiving journey. You will make friends on here if you stick around and aren't too sensitive. Just hang in there.............or not. It's up to you.
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if i knew how to delete threads i would but dont know how. so ill quit posting and i get it. no more warnings or anything. ive already got my head full of stuff.
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actually ive only made two posts and yes, been here one day. dont think ive done anything wrong. just kinda explaining whats up. but honestly, and i hope you dont take offense either, but it seems maybe this was a wrong route to come to this site. i have pretty severe social anxiety and this seemed an easy way to talk and meet people but i suppose not. good luck to all of you though. 
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NewUser32, CountryMouse is a wise woman. You would do well to listen to her. Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind. Not that I think that CM said anything cruel to you but you seem to think that.

Vent all you like but if you don't want advice people will eventually shut their ears to your venting...........no offense. There are a few people who have their very own thread and they are the only one posting on it cause all they want to do is complain. I get it that you are new here so I am just warning you. Consider the advice when it comes........there are a lot of weary road warriors on here (including myself) who can help you cause some of them have been exactly where you are now.
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just dealing. sorry
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Welcome to California!

Come and vent on the Whine thread - we do find that even the tiniest bit of humor helps - otherwise your head may in fact explode
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no, im not. i found this site today and have all this built up. only needed to get a little bit of venting out. not necessarily all i planned to do. just kind of felt like a release to get some of it out of my head and know im not alone in all this. i live in California quite far from most that i could talk to.
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NewUser32, sounds like you only want to use this site to vent, and not to get meaningful advice. That is perfectly OK. Use it however it works for you. Just don't be surprised and hurt if some people also offer advice or ask questions. That pretty much happens on all posts.
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