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I've notice some bickering and hurt feelings on o few of the threads lately. I happen to be one of those who feel there is nothing wrong with disagreement or debate, as long as it doesn't resort to name calling or personal attacks.
It seems to me if all we hear from each other are validations of our own opinions then there is no point in even asking a question, it is hearing different points of view, even those we don't agree with, that allows us to learn from each other.

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BTW, the thread is back. It is cleaned up a bit, but most of it was left intact.
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I agree with the author of this subject post. A little bit of diplomacy can be accomplished, even with varying opinions. Yes there are trolls and some quetionable postings, but I choose to ignore them.
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I like to "look at the source" before I make judgement..
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I miss all the fun.... pbftttt !
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The OP made quite a number of inflammatory statements before anyone responded to her. The one that got me was "If you're letting caregiving take over your life, you're doing it wrong".

It's not clear what this had to do with the OPs original complaint about a sibling moving a parent away from the rest of the family, but it has a lot to do with my life and the lives of many of the folks here. The compulsion that a lot of do-nothing sibs have to "blame the victim" jumped right off the page at me, and I jumped right on it. That was I think when the discussion started to unravel. I am not ever going to let someone get away with saying carp like that to a roomful of beleaguered caregivers.
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You made green goulash? Is it kinda spidery green?
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Gershun, 100 % said without a doubt better than I could ever have typed it or said it! You are awesome!
Send... wow, not only am I blind from your new avatar but I'm trying to read through my goulash I just SPLATTED all over my screen! How funny!!
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I hate to debate the debate, but I disagree Jessie. As I recall the thread this thread could well have been a good discussion about do nothing sibs, guilt, pity parties etc. I didn't see anything that warranted the over the top responces from the OP, but once it gets going it's hard not to jump in and get your pound of flesh or defend your friends.

With few exceptions the regulars around this forum are a bunch of pretty compassionate, intelligent, well spoken folks. Most of us have no problem with agreeing to disagree while respecting the others opinion.

And again, I was right in there for a while with everyone else but in hindsight as soon as it turned into a schoolyard brawl I wish I had baled out.


It's really no different than some posts you see, you read through it and think "You've gotta be kidding". You don't respond and keep looking for some intelligent life elsewhere.

I think Gershun said it best, "Nah, why bother". That's the best course sometimes.
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I think giving the high sign is a good idea for those of us that do not want to be sucked in but are not as discerning as others. So go with your green splat or discuss your favorite story Three Billy Goats Gruff and we will greet it and move on to something more worthy of our attention
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I will be very honest - I participated because it allowed me to channel frustration and a little bit of anger built up over various issues - the problems with my father's last hospitalization, the attitude of one of the doctors toward me and of another toward my father, the mistakes that could have been avoided....

Even though some of them were resolved, I resented being treated with a lack of respect. Had I treated any client like that when working for law firms, I would have been fired. So instead of saying what I'd like to say to the medical folks, I'll let some poster like MouseHunter feel my wrath instead. And since Mousey was definitely a provocateur, which is evident from early on, my feeling was that no respectful treatment was necessary to him/her/it or whatever it was.
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