My Mil is currently in a skilled nursing facility. She has started to refuse everything even food. She has been there for going on 4 weeks now. Prior to this she was in the hospital for a bad UTI. I have been her main caregiver for a year. She literally cannot walk and won't even sit up on her own even though she can. She just refuses to do it. The original plan was for her to go and do 20 days to try to learn how to walk again and then go on to an assisted living place. She made the choice to stop walking due to pain in her back. My Sil has taken charge of her care and they are starting paperwork for long term care but I know it's going to be a war with her over it. I've had health issues come up and not only that I'm just tired of being bullied into taking care of her. My children's mental health and mine as well as my husband's have taken a major hit due to having no life as she has to be watched 24/7. We have to do everything for her basically. She has even asked me to feed her. One of my kids has autism and we have all her stuff to do. What I am asking is if she refuses to go to long term care will they allow her to leave even if she couldn't get out of the bed by herself? My sil has already told them that we are unable to care for her. I am just so scared that she will just be dropped off here and left and that it will only get worse. Also would they send her home in an ambulance or will one of us have to go get her? If so can I refuse?