My 90 yr old mother lives with me 6 months and my sister 6 months. Her memory is getting bad. We have to repeat everything and she doesn't remember anyway, but what really hurts is that she whines in a child's voice around us. Yes, she hurts from arthritis, but as soon as her phone rings and it's a friend or sister in law her voice is strong and she laughs with them and is totally different. I feel like everyone else gets the best of her and we get the whining and complaining. It's very hard. She also tells her friends and my step sister before she hangs up she loves them. I know she loves us but it has never come easy for her to say it to us as easy as it does to say to others. Why do others get the happy side and we don't?