I was called away for 2 months on assignment at a COVID-19 centre. Although the complete isolation was terrible at times, it was a nice break from constant caregiving. Finally my brothers had to find a way to make time for my parents.
I've been out a month now, and my parents have gone back into their habit of codependence. When I get time off, I usually spend the day with them.
Today, I decided to use my day off to go searching for wedding related material...you know...IE doing something FOR MYSELF.
A few minutes ago my dad calls me asking why didn't i call this morning...so I told him, I've busy...and he then begins lamenting that he was waiting on my visit this morning, because he finished his last tablet of his medication, and he doesn't want to always ask my older brother.
For the record, my father does NOT have dementia nor is he disabled, he is a perfectly able man who can drive to the pharmacy himself.
(1) if they were able to get their medications for 2 months without me, how come its so impossible to do ,now that I'm back.
(2) they start back their codependence which I hate....assuming that I have nothing else to do with my free time.
(3) I have visited my parents multiple times in the last month, and have warned Dad more than once, not to wait until their medication is on its last day to call me...assuming that I am free.
(4) every free day I have had, I visited my parents' and spent the whole day...the one day I decided to go do something for myself....its a problem ? And emergency ?