Do you ever feel guilty about wanting your unmet needs met even though your spouse is too sick to meet them?

Caring for a spouse is so difficult. You lose so much. You’re entitled to feel the way you do. When a spouse is involved the world changes and your future plans disappear in an instant. It’s a terrible thing.

Everyone is entitled to their feelings. Your profile says your husband has quite a few health issues. That sounds very challenging for the family. To me, you have to secure help for yourself too. I'd read about caregiver fatigue. Sometimes, we all need a soft place to fall.

Yes, more info needed. And 45? How did he get into such a bad state at such a young age??

Can you be more specific? Are you referring to intimacy? More details about your situation would be helpful. Your profile says your husband is only 45 years old and has health issues. thx