I am an only child and take care of parents in my home. Mother has mobility issues. I have written before about her complaints and my reaction to them. I dread going into her room in the morning because she always greets me with a list of complaints. I have tried not to engage with her. My first reaction is to feel guilty and to try to explain or fix whatever was wrong. Big mistake! For example this morning she said there was no water on the table. I pointed out that there is a full container of water on her table, but she says she can't use that container because it is not the right color. This is a new development because I didn't know that a container's color mattered. When I offer a solution she says I am complaining. She talks down to me and uses my full given name rather than my nickname. Then she says I should try to lie in her bed and see how I like it. To me it sounds like she is wishing me ill. I feel that she doesn't like me since I have been involved with her care. We had a fairly good relationship before her illness. She has not been diagnosed with dementia but I think with all the medication that she takes her personality has certainly changed. How can I protect myself from taking everything she says so personally. I know it is affecting my health and I am beginning to not like being around her.