My 82 year old monster in law is driving me nuts. She has Narcissistic Personality Disorder. That has been a life long issue, and because of that, the family is in denial about her needing dementia care. They just think her bad behavior is the same as it's always been.
A year ago, the county senior services paid her a visit. They forced her to take an ambulance ride to the hospital, where she was diagnosed with kidney failure. She has been on dialysis three times a week ever since.
She has fits of rage and crying and text messages and calls my husband at work daily, causing him to get upset. She demands he leave me and come home to her. He is being driven up the wall, but avoids reporting her to anyone and says it's not our business to intervene.
I secretly called the dialysis center SW and she said my MIL is receiving the maximum amount of dialysis, so her behavior can't be due to uremia. She said it has to be dementia, but she can't discuss anything with me due to HIPPA regulations. She suggested I call the county SW, but they tell all details of the report to her, so it identifies who made the report.
In addition to staying on the phones, both cell and landline, she stalks my husband and others on social media. If someone blocks or unfriends her, she makes nasty posts about them and then harasses them for blocking her.
She has also been harassing my husband at work about our car and how we need to have it worked on. She calls mechanics and sets up appointments for our car without our permission, and then won't stop harassing my husband at work until he takes it to the shop. Then she calls the mechanic and wants to know why our car isn't there, and why he didn't he fix our car. She curses out the mechanics and then my husband. She is relentless.
Is this indicative of another mental illness besides dementia, which she very loudly denies she has?
How and where do we get help?