Father in law has diabetes, kidney and liver failure. Congestive heart failure and hes Incontinent. He will lift up his diaper and pee all over himself. He removes his diaper after a bm and smears it all over the place. He gets out of bed when he can hardly walk and I end up coming home to him on the floor naked and soiled the area around him. My boyfriend and I both work full time. We also have 3 children we are taking care of as well. I'm the main caregiver to him as I am home earlier than my boyfriend. We have no one else who will help. My boyfriend was an only child. He's on hospice but thats visit from NA mon-fri. And 1 visit from RN 3-4 times a week. After that I'm on my own. I'm exahusted my house is a disaster I'm becoming skinny because of stress. We want to put him in a home because he requires more care than we can provide but we can't afford a nursing home. We would have to put up our home to cover the cost. He gets SSI but he makes too much for Medicaid. And his insurance wont cover the cost. We have tried getting hospice to help. But hands are tied. They called APS on us because they said we weren't taking adequate care of him. We told them we aren't home all day from the getgo. There is a reason he and I both work full time. I just feel like since his father has been back my boyfriend and I are constantly on edge. Hoping I wont find a 6ft 250 lb man on the floor. Im 5'3 150lbs hes getting to the point where he cant help me get him off the floor I'm scared hes gunna hurt himself because I cant control his actions.