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Parents made the mistake of buying house with my rageful, meth-addicted brother & his bouts of anger scared off all the caregivers. So many late nite calls from agencies, finally he threatened to burn down the house & Mom ended up in a not great NH since it was an emergency placement & I ended up in the psychiatric ward for a week. I feel too guilty to resign as POA but am pretty certain I’ll kill myself if I don’t. I am very weak & feel completely broken by the past 6 years. Sorry, just need to tell someone. I know I sound like a big baby.

Check back with some answers from this question from December 2017. No, you cannot keep going on like this.

https://www.agingcare.com/discussions/being-power-of-attorney-for-my-mom-is-driving-me-to-suicide-434346.htm?orderby=oldest


AgingCareCM
Dec 2017
Hi Sternotherus, 
Caregiving is a long difficult road, and we're happy you have found the support of others here on this site. 
However, there are limits to what untrained members on our site can provide for you. 
Please reach out to experts for additional support and the help you need 24 hours a day at the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 
Call 1-800-273-8255
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You DON'T sound like a big baby.

You sound like a burned out caregiver dealing with folks with mental illness and addiction issues.

Your parents made poor choices (did they know brother was an addict?)

How are their poor choices your fault?

Get strong and well yourself and then decide with your therapist if it makes sense to keep being POA. Right now, mom is in a placement.

If its adequate, so be it. You can look for a better one when you are well yourself.

(((((hugs))))))))
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