My mom was diagnosed about a year ago with Parkinson's. Her mobility is somewhat impaired in that she loses her balance easily and walks bent over with a shuffle. I tried staying with her, which was a big mistake. Then we hired sitters from 7:00 a.m. to 8:00 p.m. She refused to have anyone in her house after 8:00 p.m., complained about the sitters constantly and would get up in the night and fall. Finally placed her in a very nice assisted living facility and got her on physical therapy which improved her mobility quite a lot. As soon as her physical therapy ends, however, she sits down and refuses to try to do anything to keep herself moving. She refuses to use her walker and as a result has fallen several times resulting in trips to the ER. I can't see her everyday, as the facility is 45 minutes from my home, I do try to go twice a week and I take her to her doctors' appointments. I have had to start using a transfer wheelchair because she has become too weak to walk from the car to the doctor's office. Twice she has fallen out of the wheelchair when trying to get into the car, because she is too weak to stand long enough to move to the car. The facility serves excellent meals, but she refuses to eat more than a few bites and absolutely refuses to go to the dining room to eat, insisting that her meals be brought to her room. When I visit she doesn't want to talk about anything except the fact that she considers herself to be dying. She honestly has no major health problems and she is only 84 years old. The Home Health nurse tells me that he cannot get her to cooperate in any way. She walks from her recliner to the bed, from the bed to the bathroom and from the bathroom to the recliner and will not use the walker. Her feet swell badly and she is supposed to keep them elevated when she is sitting, but she lets them dangle then swears that she's had them up all day and doesn't understand why they swell. She can only get her feet into house slippers, but is constantly fussing about having no shoes that she can wear (despite the fact that she probably has 20 pair in her closet). She has two closets crammed with clothes, and complains constantly that she needs new ones. The doctor cannot find a reason for her feet swelling, but I am afraid that it is because she gets absolutely no exercise and just sits with them hanging all day. I don't know what to do, she just told me this morning that she doesn't think she will be strong enough to make it to her doctor's appointment this week. What do I do?