When do I break away?
My parents were raised that the woman and kids wait on the dad. I lost my mama nearly 2 years ago. For the last 14 years my mama had health problems and never complained. My dad complains constantly. I have tried, and cried, but nothing is good enough. He has never done anything for himself. Now he is 84. I have tried for years to get him to try. He calls me at the least, 20 or more times, a day. That's on weekends. Through the week, I work 2 to 10:30. At least 10 calls before 1 o'clock. He gives me guilt all the time. He's hungry or lonely or just wants to see when I'm coming over to bring him something. This has went on for years. I have been asked in the past to just come serve cake and coffee to guests of his. Then I'm told I can clean up and leave. I am so depressed, I don't go out except to work or grocery shopping. I have 2 sisters and a brother, they have never helped. When I do go anywhere, he calls and makes cracks about "it must be nice to go out." I'm trying to stay away. But am I wrong or should I just give up and be the dutiful daughter, that is what he calls me. Help