When my step dad died almost 7 years ago, my mom just gave up. It took us to August 2017 to finally get her up here with us and we had no idea of her mental and physical decline. It's only gotten worse. She has severe memory issues, delusions and anxiety. She often says she just wants to be with her husband. On top of her regular meds she's now taking some for depression, anxiety, memory and now delusions, even though the neurologist says it's just typical old age (she's 84). I'm her main caregiver and we've had a couple of serious confrontations (thankfully she doesn't remember them....). She's become angry over imagined issues and I've gotten angry because she can't let things go or she obsesses over things and often ruins them. She claims things that were never true, has all but accused me of mismanaging her finances a couple of times, forgets small things and large (like how to answer her cell phone or that how my step dad died), she hoards things from old clothing to last night's take-out container. She's needy and contrary, negative and stubborn. She flipped another driver off once - she's *never* done that before! My mom isn't perfect, but she isn't the same person I grew up with. Her doctors tell me this is normal..... All I do know is I wasn't prepared for this, I'm not equipped to deal with it and I'm suffering from a bout of depression because of it. We live out in the country so there aren't really any resources at hand.