My mother in law is 91 and has lived with my sister in law and her husband for past 5 1/2 years. My husband and I live out of state and in 2008-2012, my husband had four surgeries; had to retire from job and be put on SSDI cause could no longer work; and we ended up losing our home.in 2010 although I was still working full time, and had to move into apartment. Also my mom lived in with us from 2006-2008 with dementia and had a stroke, hernia and colostomy surgery and was then placed in Assisted Living in 2008 when she became violent to us and herself. She unfortunately passed away in October 2009. We've tried to be a support system for my sister in law because we were unable to have my mother in law stay due to our situation. Now that I'm retired and my husband is free from any more surgery for now and we are both home we wanted to take my mother in law for awhile to help my sister in law but she is very bitter we didn't offer those years when we literally couldn't. Out of nowhere she went completely ballistic in a message back to us. We were dumbfounded because everything had been going fine with all of us. We have been a very close family, that's the saddest thing. I know she suffers from depression and anxiety for all these years and has been through counseling and taking meds. . We gave her support groups for my mother in law and even told her about Visiting Angels to come in but she refuses. I think she's at the break down level and has cut off communication and will only have my mother in law spend time with us if my mother in law picks up phone to call. What can we do to help my mother in law.. Since we not be able to see her to check her well being and now communication is cut off, we don't know if we should get Social Services involved because we have no real proof of neglect except for her lwalking to stores and mall by herself l a few times and had fallen twice on the street which required hospital stay. We are at our wits end and are heartbroken. We understand fully how hard it is to care for an elder so I have the utmost sympathy,, but don't know what else we can do. This is eating away at us. Please offer some suggestions if you can. Thanks so much.