I have recently come back to this forum for advice and emotional support (just reading others' stories is so helpful!) and I would like to get some general advice on how to balance helping my mother who is 82 with her physical needs (cooking, cleaning, laundry, errands, etc.), taking her to appointments AND being a source of entertainment. I cannot do it all.
Have others developed a schedule? Written out some sort of plan of care? What you will and won't do?
After helping her meet her basic needs, I have no energy left to entertain her. I work full-time, and married, and travel for work. I don't have the time or the emotional energy to be her everything.
I am seeking support from a home health aid, but I don't have the financial means to have someone else do everything else and just see my mom for social visits. I have to help with a lot of the basics. And I get extremely frustrated with her because she is needy and manipulative. I lose my patience and she resents that I don't "do it all" willingly and with a smile.
Any and all advice is appreciated!