I lost my Dad in May, he cried every time I went to visit. Now mom is in an ALF and more tears. I spent 7 months visiting my father in the nursing home daily. Each visit was awful, he was tearful, wanted to go home, grabbed me and begged me to take him home. He and I were very close and it absolutely destroyed me to see him like this every day. After I visited him I went to my mother's and told her how he was doing, she cried. I spent 3 months getting her to move to the assisted living with dad. 11 days after moving she broke her hip. We moved her to the nursing home, and moved dad from the assisted living back to the nursing home (I spent 11 days between them, staying nights etc.). Dads condition worsened, he still cried every time he saw me, every time I left, even with mom there with him. He passed away in May. We then moved mom back to the assisted living yet again. Now I am dealing with her grief, her tears every time I leave, every time I come etc. I have had no time to grieve for my father and at this point this has been going on for over a year, and I moved them 8 times in 7 months. I had to pack up their house of 35 years, run an estate sale, make funeral arrangements, etc.
I need to find a way to distance myself emotionally, but as an only child I have no other support from siblings. I am so tired, and I start dreading going to visit the day before I have to go. Wednesday she is returning to her old house for the last time and I already know what that will be like. I don't want to get angry, but after all of this I am at my emotional wits end. I am also her POA and have an immense amount of work from that. Any suggestions would be appreciated. Oh, I forgot to mention I am 66 years old, and my mom is 90.