My husband is the oldest of four sons. My husband and the youngest are the most likely to step up to the plate to help/deal with anything involving widowed mom (85). Brother #2 most likely to complain and point fingers and brother #3 has had difficulty taking care of his issues let alone moms (he "borrowed" $60,000). Here are a few of the issues we have been dealing with: purse stolen (3 times - leaving on floor of fast food restaurants when she goes to the restroom), junk mail (bags line the hallway w/ hundreds make that thousands of dollars going to scams), won't permit us to move washer/dryer upstairs, drives everyday to bank, fast food, church, stores (WA state does not age discriminate & difficult to report), leaves at least two outside doors unlocked at all times, I could go on and on, but you get the idea. Despite repeated warnings she just fell for the phone scam of "grandma, I need money". As directed she placed $4,000 cash in a magazine, then fedex'd it off to another state. This weekend is the "come to jesus" conversation and I am looking for any advice or an outline for my husband to work with as he deals with brothers and his mom. I have said it needs to be with the sons - no wives or girlfriends involved. How best to let her know she needs invoke poa to my husband now? How to let her know she will need to transition via a move (there is somewhere near her church) or let us arrange someone to leave in a downstairs apt (we can ready)? Just trying to negotiate sibling and mil waters in the best possible way. Thank you in advance as I'm certain I will receive sage advice.