He wants me to be poa and everything be between me and him. we lost grandma 11/12.my mo is poa and is trying to keep all his money . amendment says its for the survivors healthcare. and liveing in the standard which used to. ive tried to get paid and cant because he has medicare tricare. ive been caring for them for 7-8 yrs from across the alley but moved in befor she passed to care for him... he doesnt want me out of his sight . he has dementia. his dr said he can change his poa. shits gonna get real ugly with my mom. she's ill and i dont want to upset her. but im so screwed no matter what i do. my grandma offered me poa and to be on the bank acct. i thought mom would be fair. but she tried to get the 70,000 out of the bank right after she passed. for herself and my aunt. my grandma got 17,000 bucks when her son died in vieatnam. and with interest it 55,000 now. i need to be paid for caring for my gpa. i cnmat pay the bills the next month... my car is in my gpas name. i keep telling her we need to put that car on the trust somehow. cuz i no they will just tell the bank to take it. i've been paying for it. since jan of last yr. so i will be left with out a car. they are all so dirty. my mom offered me 5,000 of her money after hes gone. im so lost cuz my aunt hates me and has for along time. now shes real ugly and tells my cousins to stay away from me...the house was going to my aunt and mom and gpas son. he passed last yr. he put on the deed request for the others to sign their part to me. so my aunt really hates me now. he wants me to have everything.. but gma's wishes need to be respected too. no one comes to see him. it breaks my heart....they are all well off and taken care of . im the only one in the family that has been here for them and givin up my life for them... my gma bought me the house across the alley now i own half of this one. im just worried sick about how im going to even function after hes gone...i no i cant go get a job im too messed up over all this . i just filed for disability. im by polor. and adhd. post tramatic stress disorder... and just scared to death. to get paid mom said get a lawyer. shes not complying with the amendment. isnt that illeagal. i told her she'd have to pay someone else if i got a job. but she knows i wont leave him.. hed freak out. without me. im so confused..