We moved mom into an assisted living facility after a harrowing spring filled with falls, inability to care for herself and several hospital stays. She is getting more accustomed to being at the AL which is great. However, her home that she has been in for over 50 years MUST be cleared out and sold. The house is in complete disrepair and is not inhabitable at this time. There is so much STUFF in this house, doors to bedrooms cannot be opened because the room is packed. I have started going through her things, throwing away items that are broken/ruined, saving letters/cards/photos and some small items. When I try to discuss this with mom, she gets extremely defiant and yells at me not to take anything out of the house. At this point, this is what must be done. She was born during the depression and I sort of understand this need to "hold on to things" but that is no longer an option. How do I discuss this situation with her? How do I explain to her that I am saving items that I think are important, but other items have to go? I have donated some of her clothing to a "Dress for Success" program to help woman transitioning from welfare to work. These women will now benefit from beautiful clothing that will help them make a great first impression on job interviews. I tried to tell her how much her donation has helped, but she continued to yell and complain. This is only going to happen again and again as I try to get through the house. I can't even imagine she actually knows what is in the house there is just so much STUFF! Any suggestions on how to discuss this with her, without it ending in a yelling match would be so incredible helpful. Thank you.