My71 year old husband was in hospital for six months following surgery to remove a tumour on his spinal cord. As a result of being in bed for so long he has lost much of his muscle mass and has no core muscle control, He was discharged just over two weeks ago and I am finding it very difficult to cope. My daughter has put her life on hold to stay and help out but even between the two of us we can't get him from bed to wheelchair and into a recliner, His son who came over a couple of times to help (which resulted in a lot of sibling nastiness) simply can't be bothered. I feel so frustrated and helpless and spend too much time crying or snapping at my husband when I can't manage to sit him up or put on his diaper. He absolutely refuses to go into a nursing home which in any case we couldn't afford. But I really need advice on how to be calmer and less emotional please.