Parent used all her life to set up not permitting her kids (rely just me) to be involved in anything. Now, the parent could use 'help' following a UTI but her attorney has orders to fight everything for a child to help and her investor is the same. This same attorney is the POA and the second is a person who has garnished a tremendous about of money, really more than most people make. You would think an attorney would help, but 'no'. Think dictator. Parent is difficult as ever, probably has always been mentally unstable and was always so abusive that it has caused needed treatments of caregivers and the death of a sibling who just could not take it. This aged person is also well educated so every turn causes so much grief. This person can still outsmart people. So it does seem she intentionally does not want to care for their self. It is a sickness this person has always had but the affluence still gives this person a ton of authority. It is a situation where the picture and story do not match. Sibs will not help, and frankly, I do not like this person. But now police are looking for a scapegoat because this aged person also has a just as crazy sibling and she is using my name negatively in public. I want to say the cops know the truth, but they have this jerk rhetoric that makes me feel like I am doing something wrong. I spoke to the director of the Area on Aging and in her words "I know your mother and we do not work miracles". At the same time I have been investigated twice now just because of the craziness of my parent and parent's sib. Mentaly ill in my opinion. I want out. Really, other than people knowing I am related, I should have no involvement. The cops that are jerking me over with the do this and do that - these are the same cops that when I cared for my other parent who I did love would come and run me out from the simple remarks of this abusive and crazy parent. When I plead to cops or my sibs they are deaf to it, and in truth, many are connected to this person's money where I never have been. Basically, I was the most abused kid because I was a caring person and easy mark - this same parent abused the parent that I loved and it kills me to be treated like a servant, and I even get that term, knowing that it is now the same game Igrew up with. I get told by my sibs just never go back, but then I get dragged back in by cops who just do not want to go near this situation because of the notoriety this parent possesses. This seems sort of unique to me. Any advice? A POA will not work. A 302 will not work. My just giving up is the advise I get from my sibs, but then they are not getting the calls because they moved. I get, let everything go bad so that then we can get a foothold. But that is also unsettling. Getting my own attorney will just get my parent to fight the act in the court at my expense - and really, wanting to stay in her urine for attention in a home of such wealth is so crazy it should raise so many flags but either you know this parent and you stay silent out of legal or societal fear, or you force it on someone because no one wants this problem. Or, you are so clueless and think all mothers love their kids. This one, and many, just does not - but many do not get it. So, ideas, and mostly I just want to walk away. Medical caregivers are slightly involved as well right now, but they just cannot wrap their mind around it and their managers are not taking notes for whatever reason - but they would not tell me anyway as orders are that 'I' am not to get info I think. So simple, walk away. can I? But if I do and this parent goes downhill, then what? Honestly, this parent is so crazy that I would not place it past her to be doing this because of the pain it causes.