My father had a stroke about a year ago, and it's left him with serious cognitive impairments. We've had to bounce him around to various facilities because of the outrageous insurance system we have in the US, and now he's in a facility that is doing the absolute bare minimum to take care of him. The staff are letting him eat 10+ desserts per day, they aren't showering him regularly or doing other basic maintenance. On top of that, they're giving him very strong pain medications when there's genuinely no need for it - he simply likes the way they make him feel. As a result, he's gained a large amount of weight in a short period of time, and in general he's falling apart. The fact that he's immobilized means that he's just sitting in bed all day, so these problems compound quickly. We've tried to address this with the home, but they keep saying that he's capable of making his own healthcare decisions. Anyone who interacts with him for more than a few minutes will know that's insane - he regularly has delusions, can't keep track of time, can't follow basic logic and engages in incredibly anti-social behavior (such as grabbing staff members inappropriately). This is due to the damage done by his stroke. Despite all of this, the regular MD that sees him has declared him fit to make his own decisions, and a psychiatrist has also said as much. I currently have DPOA and can make legal and financial decisions on his behalf, but that doesn't seem to extend to decisions about his health (based on how they're treating the situation). Until we can get him reclassified as incapable of making his own decisions, they're not going to do anything to stop him from eating himself to death, taking too many pain pills or turning into a raggedy, dirty mess. I'm at my wits end here. All I want to do is ensure my dad is taken care of, and yet this facility seems determined to wash its hands clean of any responsibility they owe him while he's under their care. As long as he's classified as capable of making his own decisions, they aren't obligated to do what's right for him. Does anyone have any experience with this type of situation?