I placed my mom in a residential care home 1 year ago. My mom went into the hosp sept 2013 after taking pain pills she found on the Internet for 6 months. Due to the kind of work I do she hid them from me and when I found them they turned out to be muscle relaxers and steroids. She stopped taking them cold turkey and passed out she went down on the couch and has never stood since. She was in the hospital where she manipulated the staff for 3 months and then they kicked her out and I found a care home. It took 6 months in the care home to adjust her behavior with various drugs. She was combative, wouldn't cooperate, spit her meds out, throw her food, slap my face when i got too close.
I was hoping she would learn to walk again w help of home health i hired a physical therapist but she was always so uncooperative she wasted her chance to learn to walk. In the hospital she never got out of bed so now she is 100% inconentent. And now she is suffering from sundowners and dementia. What do I do? I have no siblings, no relatives, I am at a loss. I am still paying all my mothers bills. Keeping her house running a year now as if she will come home. How long do I keep this up. I'm exhausted. I work full time I have taken her dog and I have 3 cats of my own so my house is full. What about her car? What do I do with that? I have power if attorney. Financial, and medical. I'm so overwhelmed. I'm afraid if I sell her house and the care home kicks my mom out I will need somewhere to send her because I don't want her to live with me. I'm sure that sounds bad but long story short my mom sent me away when I was 8 to live with strangers until I was 17 years old and she never once visited or called. I'm doing what I feel I have to cus everyone else in her life has turned their back.