We live very close to my mother inlaw [dad was moved into a nursing home earlier this year]. My husband feels no responsibility to help his elderly mother - with home care, finances, elder care - although he is retired and frequently home. I work for a liviing and it breaks my heart that he doesn't feel any responsibility to help her - unless I prod him. Now she is making questionable financial decisions and I may have to step in actively as her POA. She is argumentative with me when I bring up almost anything pertaining to her welfare. Am I doomed?