I have an 85 year old Grandmother who is more like a mother to me whose health is failing. The plan has always been for her to relocate to Atlanta with me once the Doctor stated, "she's no longer able to live alone". Well this time came this Summer. I flew home to Seattle in May to meet with her doctors and to get all of her affairs in order once I received the call that she's @ Stage 4 Kidney disease and uncontrolled Diabetes. Within the 1st month of being home we had 12 doctors appointments (getting them updated), managing finances, preparing meals, attempting to put the house on the market.. And the list goes on.
She no longer will move. Refuses dialysis. AND LIVES ALONE against the doctor's orders. After reaching complete burn out - I arranged for family to FINALLY take turns to assist with dr appt's, checking in via phone and in person. I pay for meals on wheels to deliver meals. However, I don't want to relocate back to Seattle. Yet, I feel guilty for coming back home. My daughter is in college in the South and I don't want to be that far away from her.
Grandmother isn't nursing home ready. And can't afford assisted leaving. She wants to remain in her home but cant afford the upkeep. I am no longer employed- running through 401K trying to help as best I can. Yet, I can't afford a private nurse. I don't know what to do!