My dad died when I was in college and I have been very close to my mom and have supported her financially for over 25 years. She is now 91 and I and her neighbor really takes great care of her, but I wanted to be her caretaker and spend these last years with her. I developed chronic illnesses 10 years ago and asked my mom to please move in with me as I no longer work and it is getting tough supporting two households. I had planned to get help to get her to a doctor since getting out in the mornings are difficult for me. She refused. I agreed to move there but the house needed renovation due to my illness and I was honest that I was a bit unhappy about moving there since I know nobody where she lives. She did not fix up the house so I told her I could not move there. My mom had a breakdown and the doctors say it is because she is worried about my health and they won't let me talk to her. It is now 6 weeks since we have spoken. So now I have guilt, sadness, anxiety and worry over her breakdown and stress that I will still need to continue to support two separate homes indefinitely. I am told she is getting better and the neighbor is helping her but she has not called me in 6 weeks. I am at a loss what to do.