I'm feeling so sad. My eyes are always swollen and have headaches everyday. My sweet momma passed away, April 6, 2017. She was 75 years old. Today is her birthday, she would have been 76. She lived with my son, husband and I. I left my place of work to take care of her 6 1/2 years ago. After my dad passed, I didn't want her to be alone, plus she was getting over an infection she had in her arm. It was an honor to take care of her. As the years went by, she had other problems come and go. In 2014, she was in the bathroom and fell. I didn't want to wake up my son or husband at 3:30 AM for help. So yes, I tried to get her up myself. Well I picked her up, but she couldn't get her feet onto the floor, so I had to put her back down gently. (I think I picked her up too high). Still had to wake up my husband. But ever since that day, I have leg pain, back pain. I've had several procedures done and see pain management. Still taking care of Mom, things do become more difficult for me. Last year she was in and out of the hospital. The 5th time to ER, they decided she had to start dialysis. Too many fluids on her. Our original plan was to do Peritoneal Dialysis (PD) So a few months later she had the catheter placed to start the home PD. That is something I told her I would do prior to getting hurt. But I still wanted to do it for her. So she didn't have to go out for dialysis three days a week. So we went to training, and she was now a PD patient. I hooked her up in the evening, and unhooked her after 10 hours. Once things were adjusted properly, she did very good.
Except for last Sept. things went hay wire for her. The doctors at the hospital were questioning why we went to PD? Nephrologist Dr said it was ok prior. She had a metabolic stroke. (alot of things going on at once, I was told what caused that type of stroke). She had to go to nursing home for 21 days. (all the insurance would pay for, after 21st day would have been over 100$ a day out of pocket) So I brought her home, where she was much more happy! Did have help of an aide for 2 months, during the time she had PT and saw a nurse. She was better, but not quite the same after this stroke.
Was March 23rd had to call 911 to take her to hospital. She was having severe back pain, where she had major back surgery in 2003. Plus her ankle looked open (from rolling walker) and looked infected. The ER Dr decided she should stay for
IV antibiotics. He gave her morphine for pain. The nurse told me what it was after I asked. I told her, I wasn't sure I wanted her to have morphine. She said it's a low dose.
I'm beating my self up for this next thing.... I 'always' stay with her, until she is taken to her room. But I wasn't feeling well, plus she also told me to go home. So I kissed her, and told her "I love you, I'll see you tomorrow". But....the next morning, they call me. She wasn't responding, and had a stroke and vomited and needed to be put on a ventilator. OMG!!
During her stay in ICU, she also had Aspiration pneumonia (from vomiting), C-diff infection,
Seizures, UTI & Septic. Was lucky to get any response from her. I looked all of it up. Most can cause unconsciousness. I already missed her! She never wanted to be on a ventilator. But never did the DNR. But I was wanting to see if it would help her get better. On April 5th, she opened her eyes and seemed a little better. Then April 6th, I got the call from ICU. Her heart had stopped and they were doing CPR. I flew to the hospital (in the car). They were still working on her. Could see as someone walked in or out. I became an emotional mess. And knew then...that when they called me, she was already gone. (to be with our Heavenly Father, Dad & Brother).
I was feeling happy for her. But not knowing how I would survive without my best friend, my precious Mom.
Thank you for listening.... Wanted to share my journey and my love for my Mom.
Has anyone else had issues with changing from Hemo Dialysis to Peritoneal Dialysis?
Has anyone else had a stroke after receiving morphine?
I know it will not bring my Mom back. But if it could help someone else, then it is definitly worth knowing.