I feel she is not making the best choices on various issues and she argues with me on any suggestions I have. She lives in a nursing home and has now for 5 years since my dad passed. She will not agree to clean out her home and sell things. She will never live in it ever again as she cannot walk or care for herself. Everything except for the food (she did allow me to clean that out) is exactly like it was the day they left. Their clothes and shoes are still in the closet. After 5 years now, I have found some traces of mice and a wasp stung my husband the other day inside the house. Whenever I suggest cleaning it out she get mad at me and threatens to take me out of her will. I'm 59 years old, a Christian, and disabled myself. She has controlled me my whole life and as a Christian, I know I am beginning to not verbally treat her the way God would want me to, but I have nearly taken all that I can to the point of it effecting my health now. Any suggestions would be most appreciated. I have never felt loved from her, but know I should love her and all enemys for that matter.