My 91 year old mother has dementia. She is also a narcissist. I am an only child. I moved to this area to help care for her. I live across the street from her in one of her rental homes. My mother has a car, but cannot drive due to her macular degeneration. She also can't hear. She is very ornery, hateful and mean to me; sometimes she is downright vile. I in all honesty tolerate her abuse because I will inherit a large sum of money. I moved here only to be of help to her. I will move away when the time comes. I do not have a car now and I drive hers when the need arises to take her on her errands or what have you.
My mother, since I've been here (3 years) has several times now accused me of stealing from her. She has told me many times that she doesn't trust me at all. This is extremely hurtful to me, and it just adds more and more stress to my life.
We had an episode last week where she accused me yet again of writing a check for over the amount of purchase and pocketing the difference. I DO NOT STEAL from my mother. Because of her Macular Degeneration she cannot see to write the checks at the grocery store, etc; so I write the checks, and she tries signing them.
After last weeks episode I don't want to take her "anywhere" where a check will need to be written. I need to remove myself from this abuse. A younger friend of my mother told me that if I stop taking her on her errands and writing checks, not only would she disown me she will stop letting me use her car.
I don't know what to do here. I am on Social Security; I have no money. If I had any money I would move away from here so darn fast all my mother would see only my dust. But I can't. I feel so helpless. What should I do?