I live in Wales UK. I am not a caregiver, but my 90 year old mother has began saying abusive things to me when nobody else is about, usually on the phone, but seems to behave normally to everyone else. If I tell her how distressing I find it, she laughs more and more. The more upset I am, the more she laughs. She does remember these episodes for a while, but says they are my fault and are normal behaviour. My sister will not discuss it as she has a thing about 'family triangles' and my brother is autistic spectrum. My husband has health problems and it is really upsetting me.